I am working on a talk that I am giving this weekend at a women's retreat for my church and I thought that you might enjoy a bit of a preview! Every single one of us has this wonderful gift -- FEAR! I have to give credit to this thought process to Gavin de Becker and his book, The Gift of Fear. However, I have done other research and would like to share a bit of it with you.
Why do I feel that we should not hire that nice babysitter? Why does that guy make me want to move away from him? A stranger helps carry a woman's groceries. Is he a good Samaritan or is he after something else?
The word fear can have several different things: terror; dread; panic; alarm; reverence and respect. Most of us would associate the word with the meaning that it is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. It is often associated with the release of adrenaline and other bio-chemicals that can lead us to either fight, flee, or freeze. This is an amazing ability and when we train to understand our body's natural response to stress, then we can learn to utilize fear to move us into action.
Our brain is so wonderfully made that it picks up on subtleties on a subconscious level that our conscious thinking interprets as emotion. So, when our subconscious sees abnormalities in our normal life, then it send the signal to our conscious brain that something needs to happen. This can be interpreted as fear. Trust that instinct!
THIS is why some people give us the creeps. THIS is why we feel weird about that very nice babysitter. THIS is how you determine whether the guy is a good Samaritan or if he's after something else. I personally love to see the best in people and think the best of others, but I am learning more and more to trust that beautiful gift!
If you attending the retreat this weekend, you will hear so much more and have the opportunity to train with me. If you are not attending the retreat, then you are more than welcome to come and train in the gym! I am always spouting out stuff I have learned over the years! -- Dan