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You Can STOMP Out Bullying™! REPORT It!


Don't be afraid to tell an adult. Telling isn't tattling! You are helping someone.

Who should you tell?

You could tell your parents, teacher, school counselor, school nurse, coach or any adult you trust. Be sure to tell exactly what happened ... who was bullied, who the bully was, where and when it happened. Even if you suspect a kid is being bullied, it's a good idea to report that, too. Most adults really do care about bullying and will be glad that you told them about it.
If you tell an adult and you don't think they are doing anything about the bullying or if the situation isn't improving, tell another adult. Keep telling adults until someone does something to help.

BE A FRIEND TO SOMEONE WHO IS BULLIED

Just being supportive to a person who’s been bullied is comforting. It shows that someone or many people care.
When someone is down they need a friend. Be there for the person who is being bullied. Be a buddy on school grounds, get together after school, include them in activities, Walk home with them, sit with them on the bus. Being an understanding and supportive friend means so much. Show a kid who is being bullied that you care about them.


Martial Arts Schools around the world are conducting public workshops taking a stand against bullying.   Our workshop is fun, informative, martial arts and self defense related.  To save your spot at the event click HERE or on the button below.


If you need help now with bullying please call the school for a free private session with a certified instructor.


 
 
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Now that September has rolled around again, it can mean only one thing:  back to school!  In the excitement of meeting new teachers, getting back on the school schedule, carpools, and busses to catch, it is also a great time to help kids prevent bullying. 

 Each day more than 160,000 U.S. children stay home from school because they fear being bullied. Kids were once asked to accept and endure this treatment. But no longer. Children and adults are now taking a stand during National Bullying Prevention Month to end this form of harassment.

 Most of today's parents and educators grew up in a different world when it comes to bullying. Now, in addition to physical, emotional, and verbal attacks, cyber bullying has spread to the Web and social media. Sexual bullying -- which includes harassment related to gender and orientation, or inappropriate contact -- is becoming an increasing problem.

 Regardless of what form it takes, it's up to everyone to stand up against bullying. Here are five tips from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services' Stop Bullying website that encourages children and adults to “Be More Than a Bystander.”

 Be their friend: Children can help someone who's been bullied by simply being nice to them at another time. Being friendly can go a long way toward letting them know that they're not alone.

 Tell a trusted adult: An adult can help stop bullying by intervening while it's in progress, stopping it from occurring or simply giving the person being bullied a shoulder to lean on.

 Help them get away: There are a few simple, safe ways children can help the person being bullied get away from the situation. However they do it, make sure the child knows not to put themselves in harm's way.

 Don't give bullying an audience: If a child knows not to bully others, then other students will follow their example. To help even more, children can actively participate in anti-bullying activities and projects.

 Set a good example: If one of your child's friends or peers begins to bully someone, they shouldn't encourage the behavior by giving it an audience. Instead of laughing or supporting it, they can let the bully know that such behavior isn't entertaining.

 Concerned parents and students can learn more about bullying prevention at our upcoming Stand Up Against Bullying Workshop


 
 
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by GM Greg Silva, president of Black Belt School International.Author of the Silva Solution, "Building Black Belts from the Inside out"


Martial Arts has so many benefits that parents are looking for.  Parents also see very young kids on TV and featured in publications.    So what is the right age to start?


The age to start depends on the school, style of martial arts and the instructor, much more than the age of the child.


I began teaching in the 1970's and have maintained that the most important thing especially with a young child is that he had a positive experience.   I have had kids come in to try my program because mom and dad see's him jumping and kicking around the house and feel that he must have some talent.   However once in a structured environment we find the child constantly needing to have a talking to or removed from the class.   I then tell the parents that it's just not going to be a positive experience for the child.   Especially with preschool children who haven't had any experience with group involvement.  My recommendation is they  wait 6 months and let's try it again.  Each child is different so take a trial program and watch for yourself.   


Ages 3 to 4 years olds do well in a 30 minute class with a patient instructor.   The classes should be fun for the kids and they should be doing some basic martial arts.  Running and playing games is fun but most parents are looking to establish some self control and social skills along.  


Ages 5 - 6.   This is a great age because these children have had a year or two of class environment at pre-school and kindergarten.   Look for 30 minute classes with good protocol and established rules.   Again fun is important but learning to be still, focused for minutes at a time, respectful, patient, along with kicking, balance and curriculum to memorize will have long term benefits in all aspects of lives.


Ages  7 - 12.    Seek out a school with young but mature instructors that kids can relate to.   Martial Arts is a very visual endeavor and kids learn by moving, watching and working out with others.   I recommend avoiding schools with very long classes.  45 minutes seems to be just right for this age group.   Kids leave wanting more instead of feeling they can't wait for the class to be over.   Schools focus on different aspects and parents want to look for a school that fits their goals.   Is it self defense, fitness or competition you are looking for?   I also feel it's important a school combines social events in addition to classes so kids make friends and enjoy some friendly competition.


There is no upper age limit.   Martial Arts is one of the few sports that kids and parents can enjoy together.   Be a VIP or Very Involved Parent and lead by example by joining a martial arts school with your child.


 
 
I can’t say it enough: teach kids problem-solving skills from a very early age. If your child has developed problem solving skills but lost access to them because they are depressed periodically, you have to help them regain access to those skills. So how do you do this? Here are some suggestions for ways to help you coach your child through it:


Help Kids Identify Coping Skills: When you ask a teen or pre-teen, “What are your coping skills,” if he can say, “Oh, I go to my room. I listen to some music, I count to ten, I hit the karate bag” that’s good because he understands that coping is a skill, not an art or magic. And once you teach kids that behavior is a skill, the next step is to get them to identify problems and develop the behavioral tools to deal with them. And so it becomes, “You’re feeling sad, you’re feeling depressed, what can we do about that problem? What would you find helpful?” It gives you a place to stand where you can both begin talking about how to solve the problem of feeling sad.


Keep Them Busy: When people are depressed, kids as well as adults, they still have to meet their responsibilities.   You may want to consider Martial Arts.  Martial arts is fun,  teaches problem solving, shows kids how to support and help each other and promotes creativity.   A good martial arts instructor knows that we all face challenges and we must learn to face them with a positive attitude.


Responsibilities: As far as responsibilities go, maintain the same expectations. They will probably need more support to perform at the same level. Know that you have to give them more opportunities to regroup.  Once again a good martial arts program can help because it's not a dreaded task but a positive and  one,  The instructors will know how to handle and motivate your child to learn, practice and train.   Being part of a team of students show the importance of responsibility when everyone has their role and tasks.


Why a Quiet Room is Important: Children who are depressed often exhibit distractibility and impaired concentration, so it’s important to get them in a soothing environment. Don’t try to have a talk with them about their behavior or about their coping skills when a lot of other distractions are present.  If possible, take your child into a room where there are no distractions and let them calm down before opening a conversation about why they’re upset. And let your child know that you’re willing to listen to them and talk with them about what’s making them sad. You can say, “We won’t force you to talk if you don’t want to, but we’re here.”


Recognize That Moodiness is Part of Growing Up:  The philosophy of martial arts is that it's not what happens to you but how react to what happens that makes the difference.  Teacher show that your attitude is what determines how we feel when life throws us a challenge.  Students learn that they can choose how then feel,that  they are not controlled by external events.
Everyone Gets Sad Sometimes.” Let your child know that we all have periods of feeling down, that problems can seem overwhelming to everyone at times.  Then have his or her martial arts instructor talk to them about self control in different situations.   Learning self control in self defense, when being bullied or teased is important not only is self defense but is practiced continuously in training.


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