google-site-verification: google6604cc5631da8a25.html
According to team sports can boost kids' self-esteem, coordination, and general fitness, and help them learn how to work with other kids and adults. But some kids aren't natural athletes, and they may tell parents — directly or indirectly — that they just don't like sports. What then?

Why Some Kids Don't Like Teams

Not every child has to join a team, and with enough other activities, kids can be fit without them. But try to find out why your child isn't interested. You might be able to help address deeper concerns or steer your child toward something else.

Tell your child that you'd like to work on a solution together. This might mean making changes and sticking with the team sport or finding a new activity to try.

Here are some reasons why sports might be a turnoff for kids:

Still Developing Basic Skills  

Though many sports programs are available for preschoolers, it's not until about age 6 or 7 that most kids have the physical skills, the attention span, and the ability to grasp the rules needed to play organized sports.

Kids who haven't had much practice in a specific sport might need time to reliably perform necessary skills such as kicking a soccer ball on the run or hitting a baseball thrown from the pitcher's mound. Trying and failing, especially in a game situation, might frustrate them or make them nervous.

What you can do: Practice with your child at home. Whether it's shooting baskets, playing catch, or going for a jog together, you'll give your child an opportunity to build skills and fitness in a safe environment. Your child can try — and, possibly, fail — new things without the self-consciousness of being around peers. And you're also getting a good dose of quality together time.

Coach or League Is Too Competitive

A kid who's already a reluctant athlete might feel extra-nervous when the coach barks out orders or the league focuses heavily on winning.

As kids get older, they can handle more competitive aspects such as keeping score and keeping track of wins and losses for the season. Some kids may be motivated by competitive play, but most aren't ready for the increased pressure until they're 11 or 12 years old. Remember that even in more competitive leagues, the atmosphere should remain positive and supportive for all the participants.

Fitness Outside of Team Sports 

Even kids who once said they hated sports might learn to like team sports as their skills improve or they find the right sport or a league. But even if team sports never thrill your child, there's plenty a kid can do to get the recommended 60 minutes or more of physical activity each day.

One sport kids love is martial Arts including Karate, Krav Maga, Tae Kwon Do and Kung Fu.  These sports are fantastic for strength, endurance and flexibility and no one sits on the bench. All kids are progressing at their own rate and improving with themselves being their competition.  In addition martial arts is fun for kids which keeps them going and parents love the addition of respect, courtesy and goal setting being taught.  These mind and body sports are great for building life changing confidence and self esteem.   As students progress in martial arts many schools have competition and demonstration teams that kids can join as their athletic abilities and confidence improves.   The important thing is to keep kids active and fit enjoying a sport whether it a team endeavor or individual one.

To help your child to stay off the bench, click here to try out a couple of our Krav Maga classes or to register for our Free Krav Maga Workshop!

You remember the story of David and Goliath, right?  Many people use it as an illustration when one is facing a daunting situation. Here is a super quick summary(you can read the entire story in 1 Samuel 17):  The Israelites were facing the Philistine army.  Goliath was a giant of a man and a Philistine.  He challenged the Israelites to a dual.  If any man could defeat him one on one, then the Philistines would be slaves to the Israelis (and vice versa). David was a shepherd boy that had a strong faith in God and came to visit his brothers who were fighting for Israel. He heard the giant's contest and volunteered to take on the giant. He took a slingshot and with one rock, knocked the guy out and proceeded to cut his head off.  I'd say that he defeated him! David got to live with the king after that.

My question is this: Why in the world did David think that he could defeat a giant?  What had happened in his life that gave him such inner strength?  I think he found it while he was out with his sheep because there is strong evidence that while he was out there, he TRAINED!  The kid must've trained hard!  Tradition says that to learn to use a slingshot, that men would hang a stone from a branch with a horse hair (or something similar size) and use it as target when practicing throwing those stones from the slingshot. David must've practiced over and over. And he must've gotten really good at it because that rock hit its target when it counted!  Also, he said that he had already killed a lion and a bear while protecting his sheep (1Sam 17:35).  He KNEW that he could keep calm and take care of business under stress.  Yes, this was one tough hombre!  He trained. He trained hard! He proved before it was needed that he had what it took to do whatever he needed to do. He dug deep because he knew that the time would come when he would need great strength.

I believe that I have finally understood what it means to have that kind of inner strength - the strength to take on whatever struggle seems to be overwhelming - and I found it through training.  This training has been both physical and spiritual -- they kind of weave in and out of each other.  One supports the other.  Just when I think that I can't go on physically, then I dig down and find a little more to push on through. That gives me emotional and spiritual strength to push on through some more relationship struggles or pressing through my own fears (like writing this blog!) 

I highly encourage you to find some place to train. Overcome yourself. Find strength that you never knew that you had. Become the powerful person you were created to be.  We have to dig that person out through our training.  There are lots of opportunities and places to train. I invite you to come with us at Texarkana Krav Maga. Visit here to register to be my guest for a couple of sessions.  We will get you on your road to discovering your inner David!


I saw an interview with Daymond John this morning.  He made me remember two very important aspects of life that GregO (my husband) and I have often talked about and taught to our children.

1:  Who you are (become) is a by-product of the things you read. 

Not the things that you watch on TV, not the games that you play on whatever electronic device that you own, not the music that you listen to, but the things that you read.

Now, Daymond John was promoting his new book, The Power of Broke, and he said some things that should sound very familiar to martial artists.  Mr. John said that he looked at his goals every day.  EVERY DAY!  That is such a powerful tool for me to take away from that interview. (We have been teaching our trainees about setting goals all this month!)  In talking about setting goals, he referenced another book (Think and Grow Rich, Napolean Hill).   Where did he learn about setting goals?  He learned about them from a book!  GregO and I have also learned about goal setting from the loads of books that we have read. 

2:  Who you are (become)is a by-product of the people that you hang around.

Mentors and good friends will help you to put into action hose things that you read.  If you have loser friends who wait for the world to hand them everything, then they will influence you to do the same and you will never be able to put into practice the things that you have read.  Mr. John also said that he had mentors from his community that taught him about business.  One of those mentors was a grocery store owner that let him sweep the floors and taught him about recessions and booms. Hello!  We have been teaching the students about having a success coach!

Now, go out find you a good book to read this chilly weekend and seek out some successful people to befriend.  It will be all worth your time and effort!

Kida! - Dana

*Disclaimer:  I have not yet read Mr. John's book.  I have purchased it, but have not read the entire thing yet!

Stress is part of everyone's life,  yet much can be reduced and controlled.  Being aware of how your body responds to stress is number 1.

 Do you notice any of these stress indicators?

 1. Headache
2. Muscle spasms 
3. Tightening of the neck, shoulder and back muscles
4. Anxiety
5. Rapid heart beat
6. Frustration
7. Anger
8. Hostility
9. Eating too much

10. Drinking too much.

 In the martial arts, practitioners are taught to control stress through proper breathing.   A few times a day take 10.  Ten deep controlled breaths.   Breathe in and hold the breath for 5 seconds and slowly let it out saying 10 and counting down.  Control you breath so the exhale takes a long of longer then taking the breath.   Use the time to concentrate on the breathing, holding and counting so you are completely focused.  Repeat for ten cycles of inhalation and exhalation, filling to maximum capacity and emptying completely with each breath.

 Next take time to talk to someone and socialize daily.  We find out selves working alone or spending time online.   Be sure to have interactions with others.

 Last get some exercise that is moderate in intensity and allows some stress reduction.  Hitting and kicking pads is very therapeutic.

 Martial Arts is a great exercise program that trains Mind and Body.  It defiantly has stress reduction exercise, breathing and a great community of people dedicated to overall health and well being.

 Greg Silva

Author of Building Black Belts From The Inside Out.